Monthly Newsletter: Month Thirty Six

Dear Lucas,

Tomorrow will be your third birthday and I'm sure I say this every birthday, but I can't belive it. When I say that I mostly me that I can't believe that it has only been three years. I have trouble remembering adulthood before you came along. It seems like such a part of me to think of what is best for you before considering what I want. But three years ago you had just come into the world. Now we are going to Kelowna and you are insisting on sleeping in your own room.

The biggest change I noticed this month is you gaining your independence. A couple of weeks ago you wanted me to come with you anytime you were playing with a friend at their house. Now you are starting to feel quite comfortable with the kids on the block. It is really interesting to watch you be friends with people. Generally I am so proud of you. You are good at sharing (unless it is your favorite bobcat). And you are cautious of doing things that you don't think are okay with us. You are also good at listening to our instructions as well. That being said we have had some growing pains with it. One day I couldn't find out and was panicking. You had just gone into the new neighboors house, but hadn't told me. So one moment you were in the yard and the next you weren't. I was pretty sure I knew where you were, and when I found you I had to explain you have to tell mommy where you are going. So far we haven't had another incident like that.



We are going through a challenging time with you right now. You are really testing the limits, which I think comes in turn with becoming more independent. The other day we had 5 mintues of you crying on the stairs because I wouldn't go get the bobcat that was upstairs for you. You just didn't want to do it. Eventually we compromised and did it together. Another example is asking you to come in at the end of the day. No, you'll say. I'll ask again and say please, no you'll say again. Then the threats start. This is what most evenings feel like to me. You better do "x" or you won't get "y". I feel like I could become a lawyer, everything is bargining with you.

Along with being independent you seem to be growing up in other ways as well. One of the things you've said to me the last couple of days is that's not fair. I asked you what that meant and you had no idea.

Although we are going through this hard time of you testing your limits and boundaries generally like is really fun. You are getting more intelligent and more emotional. Those emotional things go both ways. When you tell me you love me I think you have a better concept of what it means. One of your other favorite things to say is "Mommy I have something to tell you.". I find you often say it when you want my attention or someones attention, but aren't really sure how to get it.

Earlier this month we met with a friend of mine from work. I was so proud of you. You would hold her hand when you were going somewhere and you would play soccer with us. You didn't complain when we talked about work and were generally really well behaved. She couldn't get over what a good kid you were. I was beaming with pride. Generally Lucas I am so proud of you. Sometimes you make me frustrated, but at the end of the day. I am always glad you are my kid.

love mommy

Singing along with music