In the third book of the Twilight series the main character, Bella, has to choose between to men ( or one werewolf and one vampire). One of the big themes in the book is who is Bella soulmate. She does like both of the "men". It got me thinking about soulmates and how I feel about the term and what Bella is going through. I personally don't believe in soulmates or believe that there is only one person out there for everyone. I think that there are probably a variety of people anyone could be married too. I think it depends on where you are in your life and who you meet at the time. But I think marriage is work. I think that Bella would be happy with both Edward and Jacob, she loves them both. She chooses Edward but has to give up so much for him (live forever, never age, never have children). I'm not sure she should give up her whole life for someone who she thinks is soulmate. I worry that a whole teen generation will not get married now because they are looking for their "Edward".
What do you think, is there one person for everyone?
Till Tomorrow
Jenn
3 comments:
It's hard for me to comment fully on this having finished the entire series already but to comment on the 'soulmate' idea...
I think that in Bella's case and in the case of many people - you can meet someone and you are just in love with them. And even if you can't be together for some reason you would still love them. You could fall in love again but it would be a different kind of love. Maybe it's a first love thing or maybe it is a soulmate thing. How could you ever really know? When you're in it I'm not sure it's even a 'choice' that you make. They whole thing is that you feel that you have no choice. You know what you might be giving up but it doesn't matter because it's out of your hands.
My husband and I had a long distance relationship for several years. There were so many times when I felt angry and wanted to end it because it was so hard and it would be easier to just break up and go out with someone who lived in the same place. The thing was when it came right down to it I just couldn't do that. It was like I didn't have a choice. Like a voice deep inside of me was saying "tough, this is the way it is so deal with it." When I had the courage to tell him about my conflicting feelings he told me he felt the exact same way. That he knew it would be easier but that he just couldn't do it. (I'm not saying we're soulmates or that I'm married to Edward :) it's just our situation.)
So maybe sometimes we are lucky enough to just 'know' you know? I don't think these young girls will forgo getting married because they can't find "Edward" but hopefully they'll be more selective and confident that there are actually good guys out there who will treat them the way they deserve to be treated. And also that they can have a super hot and romantic relationship without jumping in to bed with the guy.
Okay, I think I'm done. This is the longest comment ever. Enjoy the rest of the series.
I don't think we are predestined to a mapped plan of our lives. I think we make choices that influence each others lives, give us opportunities or obstacles which we then handle again. We have a free choice. (if not that would be horrible, I'd feel like a robot following it's defined 'destiny'").
So given the fact that everybody has a free choice, the idea that there's one and only one soulmate out there doesn't seem logical. What would be the odds that we ever meet this person? Chances of winning the lottery are surely bigger.
so no, I do believe we make decisions in our lives, we feel in love with someone, take the risk, give the commitment. But if we had made different choices in our live, we might have arrived at the different point, felt differently, met different people. I am with you on this one.
Hi! You inspired me to sign up finally. It's been a long time since I read your blog. I have to answer my thoughts on this question. I think when you choose to partner with someone for life, you have no concept the twists and turns life with throw you, so you better pick the person you have the most faith you can literally do the 'for better or worse' stuff with, even if you are not married. I'm sure there are more souls that are 'mated' with mine that just my husbands. They are sisters, children, friends and my husband. But my husband is my life partner, and for better or worse, we rely on our souls to keep us connected when all other logic fails! And some days, that is all we have. Fortunately, most days are much simpler than that! :-)
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